Anonymous asked: I've been reading your blog for a long time now.. I've noticed that lately your posts sound like you have gotten your heart broken, and I need your advice. Do you think it's possible to be friends with an ex-lover? I'm trying my best but I can't help what I feel.... It kills me that he only wants to be with my friend. What can you advice me??
I do think it’s possible to become friends again with an ex, although it has always taken me a long time to truly come back to a point of a fulfilling friendship. I also have never really wanted a friendship immediately after, the friendships just sort of happened after things settled down. Fighting feelings is the worst because it’s true you cannot help what you feel, you can only choose how you act after you’ve thought through the feelings. You’ll have to live through the pain, like I’ve addressed before, and if a friendship is something you actually want you have to respect yourself and realize that you can’t be friends until you have control over yourself. You can’t want a friendship as a means to get close to someone again. When both of your feelings have subsided then a friendship can come about.
Hope it helps. Let the ex be an ex and you’ll realize whether he is even worthy of a friendship.